Our doctor was concerned about the size of the baby, particularly the shoulders and due to some other personal circumstances we agreed that an induction would take place at 40 weeks.
I was initially ok with the idea but started to become anxious and concerned, I was worried that by agreeing to an induction that I had surrendered our power to make decisions about the birth. Thankfully, we were fortunate to have the support of Karen and Tracey to make sure that we were informed, emotionally prepared and completely comfortable with the processes and possible outcomes.
By the time we arrived at the Sunshine Coast University Hospital a little after three in the afternoon on the 21st August 2018 we were super excited and looking forward to meeting our baby.
We were booked for a balloon catheter to help induce labour, followed by an overnight stay. At 5:30 am on the following day we were taken to a birth suite where we broke my waters and started a hormone drip to bring on contractions and first contractions started rolling through at 7am. The morning was filled with laughs and talking and visits and a very relaxed and beautiful atmosphere the staff were so amazing and the contractions were breathed through and very unthreatening, it was truly great and all very surreal.
We laboured without any pain medication or complications until around 3pm when the contractions began to really intensify, I was becoming very fatigued as we were progressing slowly and after months of poor sleeping and only managing two hours the previous night, I started to struggle with staying focused. The baby was beginning to show signs of fatigue as well and I had started to feel it was time to get into the bath for relaxation and pain relief. I asked to go into the bath but could see that everyone felt it was a bit soon, I became a little obsessed with idea of weightlessness and by 5pm was insistent I wanted to get in. It felt incredible and helped so much with the contractions, but things were progressing slowly, I had only reached 6cms by 5pm and the exhaustion was making it difficult for me to breath through the contractions.
We had another examination and discovered the baby had turned and was now posterior and presenting with a large area of the skull. I discussed with my partner how he felt about pain relief as I was no longer confident I could keep going with the exhaustion and we decided that we would ask for an epidural, I received the epidural and although it was patchy it gave a few hours of relief before we required another one. The final examination came after 17 hours of labour and revealed that the baby would not move back to a position that would allow for a vaginal birth and that the contractions were causing the baby’s heart rate to drop due to exhaustion so we stopped the drip to discuss our options. The contractions stopped immediately after the drip was turned off and I was able to fully be present when I made the decision to proceed with a c section.
Ash and I had had plenty of time to discuss the c section and we both felt that we all had tried our very best and that a c Section was the safest option for our baby at this point. The nurses, midwives, doctors, surgeons and support staff were all so incredible and supportive, I felt like they were all emotionally invested in this birth as well. We all felt proud of the day we had shared and the work we had all put in.
I was concerned that I would somehow feel like a failure or that I hadn’t done things the way I should have for making the choices I made throughout the day that resulted in C section but I honestly don’t. I couldn’t have asked for a better experience and felt like a warrior by the time I went in for surgery.
Our 4.56kg baby boy was born at 12:04am on the 23/08/18 we had already chosen the name Stanford Oxborough Young and felt that it suited him when he was pulled into this world.
Ash has been a super dad and a super partner and we are both so incredibly in love with our beautiful child. Later when we re read our birth wishes we realised that very few things on the list eventuated but we both felt so happy with our birth journey and so supported and respected the entire time. We feel so blessed to have been Calm birthers at the SCUH and will sing our song of praise and gratitude eternally for the experience.
We are so grateful to everyone who helped us on our journey to parenthood. Wishing all you beautiful Calm birth Mums and Dads safe, calm and loving journeys into the best ride of your life.
Love Ash and Brodie.