On the Wednesday (3 days late) I had a 'stretch and sweep' and my midwife told me I was 1cm dilated and almost completely effaced. My mucus plug came out later that day. On Thursday evening I started having contractions and my husband Daniel and I were really excited, I called our midwife and she suggested I go to bed and try to get some rest. I slept through the whole night and when I woke up there were no contractions. Friday morning I already had an accupuncture appt booked so I went to that and he did some labour inducing techniques. Throughout that day I had a few strong contractions and these fizzled out too.
Sunday morning (3rd Dec) at 6am I woke up with a contraction, and I just thought they would fizzle out so I ignored it, I was very emotional by this stage due to all the false starts. I slept on and off between 6am and 10am and my contractions were stronger and about 15 mins apart so I could no longer sleep through it. I told Daniel I just felt like I had to be alone. I stayed in bed in the dark, there was a really strong storm and really heavy rain, I just concentrated on my breathing and the sound of the rain. At midday I suddenly felt like I needed Daniel with me, and my contractions suddenly became very intense! I tried the gym ball and leaning over the couch in the loungeroom. Daniel did some light touch massage on my back and put on some music and aromatherapy and I tried to eat something.
By 1 or 2pm we decided it was time to call our midwife. I had 4 contractions in 10 mins. She came over within 30 mins, by the time she arrived I had a constant pain in the right side of my belly, it didn't go away after each contraction and felt like a sharp stabbing feeling. It was so painful I couldn't talk and I could hardly breathe through it. We both agreed it was time to go to hospital (SCUH). The car ride was very intense and I was very noisy, I was still having 3 or 4 contractions in 10 mins and the constant pain. When we arrived I said I could walk, but I couldn't! I was wheeled straight into birth suite and had the monitors put on, and soon after arriving the sharp pain went away! We never worked out what it was. Our midwife checked me and I was 4cm. After the sharp pain had subsided I became a lot calmer and more relaxed.
I got straight into the shower and both shower heads were angled onto my lower back and I was on my hands and knees. When that wasn't enough anymore I got into the bath. I then had a surprise visit from the beautiful Tracey! Tracey was working in birth suite that night. It was so good to see her and a familiar face. Thanks to Tracey and my private midwife our wishes for a calmbirth were respected and encouraged.
By now I felt a lot of the contraction in my lower back. I started using the gas during my contractions. My midwife checked me in the bath and I was 7cm. The pressure in my lower back was becoming overwhelming and I could not find a good position so Tracey and my midwife gave me the sterile water injections and my back felt so much better instantly. And they weren't that bad! I had the injections again later too.
After spending what felt like a few hours in the bath, I felt like I needed to try different positions. I sat on the toilet, I stood up, I think I was on my knees for a bit (I don't remember all the positions!). The whole time I just kept concentrating on my breathing, counting the in breath and the out breath so I would focus more on that instead of focusing on the intensity of the contractions.
Our midwife checked me again and I was 10cm and was told I could push! This becomes a bit of a blur, I didn't use the gas while I was pushing, cause it was taking away the power of my pushes because I was concentrating on the gas instead of the push. After a long time pushing (maybe an hour?) in different positions (birth stool, squating, standing) there was no sign of baby's head. I was encouraged to try rebozo and shaking my hips etc to encourage baby to come down, but I had no energy and I could barely stand up. I was so dissapointed that there was still no sign of his head. It was probably about 11pm by this stage. I'd had such a long day and I was so tired in every way, when I realised he still wasn't coming out I felt very disheartened and wanted to give up. I got up and crawled into bed and said 'I just need to have a rest'. By then I had 3 beautiful midwives encouraging me, telling me it won't be long, and tried to encourage me not to get into bed. Despite their encouragement, I had no energy and kept telling everyone to just 'pull him out of me' and kept asking 'how many more pushes do I have to do', 'why haven't you pulled him out yet' and I stayed in bed and pulled the covers over me! At this point the midwives kept saying I'm so close!
I asked to have the gas back and I lay on my back on the bed and kept pushing with every bit of strength I had. Our beautiful little man was born on Sunday 3rd December at 11:53pm.
Your Calmbirth class has seriously changed our lives, from when we first started talking about having babies years ago I always said to Daniel how scared I was to give birth and I'd only do it if I could have a planned C section... and look how far we've come since then! I still think about Archer's birth and how proud and amazed I am at myself for doing what I did! What an incredible experience! And the crazy thing is I'd do it again haha. I can't believe how in love we are with our little man.